Approaching women is scary. I know this because I know how brutal we can be to guys. But there are some triggers that make us that brutal. Now some of those triggers are what youíve learned from popular culture but itís creepy AF. So even if you had a chance, youíve lost it because of something you said or did.

So if youíre shy or you want to avoid being slapped or insulted and save some grace, hereís what you can do!

1. Ask a female friend to do your ground-work, trade your wingman for a wing woman

Women feel safer with women, so the concept of wingman doesnít work as well as wing women in India. If a girl approaches us, we know the level of bullshit immediately comes down from 60% to 30%. Which means you have a 30% better chance!

2. Talk to her about about really random stuff, crack a few jokes but avoid asking or giving personal information

When you ask us which college, company or where we live, we feel like you might stalk us or might turn out to be an axe murderer. So you might find the girl walking away or getting really awkward. So instead, talk to her about current events, make her laugh, compliment her, but not too much and not the sleezy ones. Stick to beautiful or pretty, because if you say hot, that might be the last thing you say to her.

3. Offer her a drink only after youíve spoken to her for a minimum of 10 minutes

The whole notion of sending drinks over to a girl you like, doesnít work. Weíd just turn it back. Why? 1) We feel like we owe you something if we accept a free drink and 2) We will never drink it because it might be spiked. So itís better if you offer a drink after establishing some sort of connection and clarifying that you arenít infact a misogynist or a predator.

4. Donít ask her for her number, either ask her for an email id or just look her up on Facebook and send her a request

Never ask her number. Thatís the rule. Because remember she isnít that easy that sheíll give it to you. Leave a few things to chance. Tell her youíll look her up on Facebook and if she liked talking to you, only then she should accept the request. Atleast this way, youíre being a gentleman and leaving the ball in her court to decide.

5. If sheís someone you see everyday, maybe start smiling in her direction every day and eventually go and ask her for a very generic question

With someone you meet everyday, maybe on your way to work, you need to do this gradually. Build a connection over a couple of days, smile in her direction but donít stare like a creep. The day she smiles back, you can go over to her and introduce yourself. Ask her some really generic questions, like train timings or something and hit the ground running.

6. Donít ever go with your friends, always go alone!

When you go over with a bunch of guys or even one, we get really uncomfortable. Because then not only your behaviour but also your friendís behaviour is taken into consideration. And itís better when youíre vulnerable, sheís more likely to talk to you.

7. Donít use pick up lines, be yourself!

No shady shit like using crappy pick-up lines, it doesnít work. So be spontaneous!

8. Find a balance between shy and co*ky

Donít be the guy staring at his shoes instead of her face and donít be the guy who doesnít stop talking about himself and stares south from her face. Be confident, but not overconfident. Itís nice to see a guy blushing, it lets us know that we unnerve you just a little bit.

9. Download Tinder and see if they are on it!

If youíre too shy to approach someone because you think she might be committed, simply log onto the dating apps that map location. Almost everyoneís on it, so do a quick check before you introduce yourself.

10. Always be humble and honest

Thatís the only way. So put it out there, the universe will be kind in return!

Now get off your as* and go talk to her!